I wasn’t sure what I wanted to write about this week. So, I sat down, for 10min, 20min, 30min, closing my eyes at times, trying to be present to what was there for me to say. Some ideas came, that I had in mind for a while, but it didn’t feel the right things to talk about. Eventually, what felt good was to talk about this process of listening to my own intuition, or to what feels right.
I have been listening more and more to my intuition lately, both in personal and professional situations.
Using intuition in coaching can be very powerful to uncover roadblocks and clear the path to what the client wants to achieve, providing that it is just offered as a way for the client to explore and not to analyze them or to be right about it.
Here is what was said in a class I took about intuition:
Intuition is the human capacity to know without the use of rational processes or concrete information. For some in mainstream society, anything that cannot be verified by our six senses is viewed with suspicion; and intuition is sometimes understood as being aligned with spiritual things. Intuition may be the subconscious mind’s ability to take all the bits and pieces of information we absorb through our senses, process them through our mind and spirit, and refine them into a singular “knowing” about something. I personally like that possibility because it is still understandable by my scientific and rational brain.
Everyone is intuitive. We may call it something other than intuition, but we all have experienced and benefited from this form of guidance.
Intuitive muscles are further strengthened by recognizing, trusting, and acting on intuition. Keeping an intuition journal is one way to collect evidence of intuition working in your life.
Intuition is blocked by poor self-care, distractions, fear, impatience, judgments, attachment to an outcome, and worry about others’ perceptions.
With practice, you can learn to discern intuition from intellect or emotion.
INTUITION OFTEN HAS TO COMPETE WITH OUR PRECONCEPTIONS ABOUT HOW THE WORLD WORKS, OUR BIAS IN FAVOR OF LOGIC AND OUR OVER RELIANCE ON THINKING.
While intuition is quite often correct, there are so many influences that can affect our interpretation or our understanding of what intuitive messages may mean. Never assume your intuition is always correct. Test it, offer it for review, but don’t insist on it being right.
What you may receive and relate through intuition about someone else may not always resonate with them. While sometimes it takes time for the other person to absorb what you intuitively tell them, it is possible that they never will. And, it is possible that your intuition does not match the other’s. Be prepared for this possibility, and merely offer your intuition. The other makes the final decision to accept and act upon it, or not.
The way I use my intuition is not so much a «what is this situation trying to tell me ? » sort of way, but rather creating some space and time without forcing anything, to get a feel about a situation.
When I have an unclear situation, like a blur painting, or a decision that is difficult for me to make (which is often the case based on how indecisive I am…), I sit down, eyes closed. I try to feel things, or options. Sometimes I let my thoughts go away and come back. I try to narrow in on what is getting in the way, what feels or doesn’t feel right. And then the painting becomes clearer, I see things that I didn’t see before, or, in the case of a decision, a natural option emerges. And if not, then I switch to another activity and let go of this topic for a while, and then come back to it later using the same process. That has appeared to be very efficient, even more than to make pro and cons lists in the case of a decision, which is pretty much a thinking process.
I noticed that while I am becoming more and more comfortable to listen to my intuition about myself, I still struggle to trust my intuition about others or to trust the intuition others have about me (when I am being coached for instance). The voice in my head is saying: “Who am I (are you) to know more about you (me) than you (I) do?”. So, when someone is sharing something they see for me, even and especially when my first reaction is to not see what they are talking about, I practice being open to it, without being attached to it being right or wrong, just as a possibility that will help me explore. And I practice sharing what I sense about others without being attached to be right either.
I’ll leave you with a few questions to reflect on:
- What experiences of intuition have you had at work or in your personal life?
- What judgments do you hold about intuition?
- What fears do you have about using your intuition fully? What holds you back from acting on your intuitions? (For me, it’s clearly to be wrong and then beat myself up for not reasoning more)
- What will others in your in your world say if you reveal that you are acting on intuition?
- Is there something that you are tolerating that is keeping you out of integrity or blocking your intuition?
- What is synchronicity?
- What experiences/evidences of synchronicity have you noticed in your life?
- What messages do you need to pay attention to now? What are you stepping over or distrusting?